No matter what your age you may find yourself acting more like an old grump, a sarcastic adolescent, or a whiny child. If you are an entrepreneur, artist, or writer wanting to impress your public, these behaviors may not put you in the best light. What to do with them? Observe how you feel, how you act, and how others respond to you. Then put them in a story. Since most of us have had these feelings at one time or another, our audience can relate to these feelings and behaviors.
So where would you put the old grump? You could make your hero more human by being grumpy when he/she is in the valley of despair.
Think about what made you feel grumpy––never grumpy?––really? Ask someone you know well, and they will probably tell you politely that you may have been a bit grumpy that one time. So recall what happened before you felt grumpy.
· What were you doing or thinking about?
· Who was around?
· What wasn’t going as expected?
Now use those feelings, thoughts, events, or people and put them in different circumstances. Find the person in your story that is too perfect. Add a little sarcasm or grumpiness. Move away from stereotypes and make someone other than the woman whiny. Ok, we could call it complaining, finding fault, or being negative––sounds better than whiny. I suspect we all feel like complaining over the slightest things at times. We are all human. Observe your weaknesses and use them to strengthen your character.
Not writing a book? You are still writing your story everyday. Consider making yourself the hero of your story who overcomes everyday annoyances using humor, friends to the rescue, or the kindness of a stranger. We can write and rewrite our stories everyday to accept our weaknesses and gain compassion for others and ourselves.
Would you like help transforming your weaknesses into character strengths? Contact Nancy J. Miller for a complimentary 15-30 conversation to see where your story could take you.
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Nancy Miller, M.S. is a Career Counselor, Life Coach, and writer. Nancy will assist you with story ideas, organizing your book whether fiction or nonfiction, and choosing a method for publishing and printing.